Are you also facing these issues after the baby?
After delivery, many changes might occur. Changes may occur both in your physical appearance as well as between you and your spouse. If we talk about the issues that many couples face are all related to money, sex, and time. Such issues that many people face after a baby are listed with a solution!
➔ After a baby, the household activities might double and fights might occur between you and your partner.
It is very obvious that before the baby was there you used to do your tasks during the weekend and pile them up. But after having a baby, so many tasks are there that are necessary to be done immediately. And you can not procrastinate about the chores after having a baby. And at this moment you and your spouse, both start feeling that the other person is not performing their tasks well.
It would take time but things would get on the track after a while. But the constant background issues can cause resentment to build up over a certain period of time.
➔ You and your spouse might have a conflict regarding each other’s parenting styles.
The thought that both the parents are equally sharing the responsibility of the child is very good. But it often becomes hard to predict how you will deal with the problems at midnight when your baby needs something. And tat that moment you gave to take up the responsibility no matter if your partner is willing or not. There might occur conflicts between your both about each other’s parenting styles. All you have to do is have patience and softly allow yourself to listen to what the other wishes to say. For this, you both can have a talk and set a certain set of guidelines. And if you feel then you can walk up to a pediatrician too.
➔ The personal time that earlier you and your partner used to had would have reduced to half.
It happens that before having a baby, both of you are having a very good time and have sex all the time you wanted to. But after having a baby, it might happen that your partner had turned into a super parent.
Of course, you both are in love but you find that moment the right one to get under the coves. So it is recommended to plan before you go under sheets. And it is very silly to think that a couple can’t make a hot date. You get a baby sitter and spend some personal time with each other.
➔ As the baby comes, the requirements also start to increase and therefore huge importance to money is given then your thoughts.
It is very common that before the baby both the parents are working and after having a baby, only your partner is getting time to go for work. And because of this only one member is there in the family who is earning and the money requirements get increased. There is no doubt that money may become a matter of stress because the one person who is earning has to earn for the whole family.
Many recommend that initially, you should live on a tight budget as it will help you save some of your money. It will also help you get save your money for the emergencies of the future. And you have to choose things considering the budget before opting for one. You can try to save some by not going out on movies and shopping unnecessarily.
➔ The couple time that you used to have earlier is now changed to family time.
Earlier both of you used to stay together and now after a baby, you don’t move as a couple but as a family. So the solution to it is fixing a schedule and plan your meetings. During these meetings, you can get time to talk about your stuff and get your time to gossip.
And it doesn’t matter if you have to continue your book club at weekends. It is no harm to go out and spend time alone. Instead of looking at it as a bad way, consider it as a good thing as you would return home happy and refreshed.
➔ Even your parents i.e. the grandparents of the child are on the scene and wish to spend some time with the child.
It happens in many families that when your parents turn grandparents then they get so overwhelmed by that feeling that they begin to feel that they can access your home and lives at any moment of time. The solution to it is that you can set some boundaries and you have got the right to say no. it doesn’t matter how generous they are but you have to sometimes raise a voice. Or if you don’t feel good while saying no then you can choose some specific times or days when the grandparents come by your place and enjoy with the baby. Because by this they will thin that you are considering them and they will definitely understand.
➔ You are unable to get time for yourself.
Taking care of your baby can take up all of your time and also the ones which you used to consider as “free time”. Even after having a baby if you are able to do something for yourself then it can make you feel like an outrageous indulgence. You shouldn’t forget your identity and make out some time for the things that you want to do. It is very obvious that you need to lower your expectations initially but slowly you would be able to start reclaiming some of your own life.
Having a baby and growing the family is very exciting, exhilarating, and wonderful. But also it can be very exhausting, exasperating, and worrisome. And the combination of all of them can be very toxic for a relationship that can also affect your baby. And this point you might need a lot of energy and time to sort, which is exactly you would have got least of after a baby.